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Feedback ยท Give a trait option of "none" for the D/s Role & Top/bottom Role traits (new)


automatic category suggestion for d/s role: 0 out of 50

To avoid repeating myself I choose to give the suggestion to both D/s Role & Top/bottom Role traits, instead of just one of then, since my suggestions are essentially the same for both and they both complete each others' meaning

Please, please, please. =[ Many times my characters don't have a D/s role or don't top nor bottom. And many times I'm also looking for characters that don't have D/s and Top/bottom roles either. Please, why everything needs to be about dominance and submission? Can't they just be equals? Do real people (outside of BDSM communities) have D/s roles in real life? Or are we kind of like round character, complex and with moments of power and vulnerability? Can't anyone have sex without focusing on dominance and submission now? Do you know that people tend to fixate and limit themselves in the role they receive? Are we all about power play in role-plays? If I want to find an asexual character that gets a kick out of being used in a sexual way or molested and abused here, how do I search for it?

One of the things that bugs me the most in F-List and here is that we can't formally separate gender/sex and appearance from sexual interest. Interest and preferences doesn't always have to be sexual, even in sexual characters. I can't be a straight male and be attracted to male company without running the risk of giving the idea that I'm sexually attracted to males, for example. Can't you be homosocial and straight at the same time? In F-List, we have official kinks for every gender, they just say "expresses an interest in traditionally 'x' characters". It doesn't say "a sexual interest", so why is almost everyone interpreting it as sexual?! Can't even the most sexually active of characters be able to behave in an non-sexual way? If my male character only likes masturbation, kissing, licking, frotting and foreplay, but is not interested in conventional penetrative sex in any way, is he a bottom or a top? In my opinion, this is why many people choose not to fill up those gender kinks or leave some missing, because there are ambiguous options, which is horrible to search with the site's searching tools! So many kinks unfilled, people don't realize that the less filled your profile is, the less views it receives! And due to that they give up using the site searching tool to find role-players, they give up using the most powerful and time saving tool, since no one fills their characters' lists any more, so they usually don't find what they're looking for using said tools!

Please don't let this happen. Keep the search function an exact and precise tool! So that when people want to find straight homosocial males to do a non-sexual adventure role-play with, for example, they really get to find what they are looking for! Those are some of the things that bothers me the most in role-playing sites. It's not all about D/s and people with (very actively) sexual lives can also hold a non-sexual conversation just fine and also be (very) interested in non-sexual relationships. C'mon.

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created: 05 June 17 at 05:01 PM (build: 8/21/2016 1:52 AM beta)

Genevieve Lilliana

D/s role can also be about the kind of control a character exerts over a scene, not just within the context of sexual domination and submission. It could simply refer to the personality trait of being domineering, of leading and not responding well to being led, or conversely to being a ready follower. Similarly, top/bottom role is simply whether a character prefers to give or recieve sex.

Both of these traits, aside from being entirely optional, have the Switch valence, which especially for D/s role is something I view as engendering equality. Context matters - it is perfectly possible to set D/s role and also set BDSM, Slavery, Femdom/Maledom, etc., to No, and things like Mentoring, Friendship etc. to Yes or higher.

I then put to you that since most people do use the sexual trait preferences to mark attraction, and not sexism - which is its own interest - you can use the negative preference for masculines to generally indicate in most cases a profile that won't want to be sexually involved with a man, but might still do other things. The search does not, currently, appear to support matching on negative preferences, but for now, try this search string as a starting point:

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